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May 24th 2012, 21:22

Dan was pumped to be back in the Northwest and back among his people -- hippies, snowboarders and nature-lovers -- at the University of Oregon on this week's episode of " Savage U." But he was not impressed with one student's inability to follow through on a much needed break-up.

+The Deets

Ryan and his high school girlfriend decided to break up before going to college. But then she followed him to the University of Oregon and now lives in a neighboring dorm. They still hook up, but Ryan is also hooking up with other girls. The ex-gf wants to start dating again.  Ryan isn't feeling it but hasn't told her either.

+The (SEX)perts Weigh In

Ryan doesn't have a problem with what he's doing because everyone involved knows he's not exclusive. So he thinks he's being honest and hooking up with other girls is fine. But if Ryan was honest with himself he'd see that his ex is putting up with this hoping he will change his mind and want to be with only her. He's dragging this breakup out, doing the friends with benefits thing while he can. But he's not being a real friend because he's taking advantage of the situation.

"This is the slowest band aid tear off ever," said Dan. "It's not healthy…she is already hurt… break her heart already, all the way through. You've broken her heart almost in two and you need to finish the job."

+What You Can Do

It may be old school, but the golden rule of "treat others as you would like to be treated" really holds up in a lot of these messy break up situations. If you have a gut feeling that you are being unfair or leading someone on, you probably are. Confrontation isn't easy, but it is so much better if you can be honest and upfront.

If you do end up with multiple hook-up buddies, who are all cool with being just that, remember to use protection each and every time you have sex. You're making decisions that affect not just your health but the health of everyone else you're sexually involved with. And with one in two sexually active people getting an STD by the age of 25, it's always a good idea to get tested before you start a new sexual relationship, you can even go with your new lady/man and make a date out of it.

Got more questions about your sexual health? Visit It's Your Sex Life for answers and enjoy some of our favorite Dan-isms of the night below:

Dan's mascot-inspired fetish question for the campus: "Would you hook up with a duck?"

Dan's philosophy on sexting: "The majority of the sexts being blasted around the world are by olds…your parents are at home sexting each other from the living room and back!"

Dan pleading the fifth on how to deal with a former boyfriend coming out of the closet: "I might have to recuse myself on this one. As a formerly closeted gay theater major, I've done what he did!"

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